Resources

Down below you will find additional resources for you to visit that include bullying and suicide prevention.

Bullying


WHAT IS A BULLY?

According to the Department of Justice:
Bullying has two key components: repeated harmful acts and an imbalance of power. It involves repeated physical, verbal, or psychological attacks or intimidation directed against a victim who cannot properly defend him- or herself because of size or strength, or because the victim is outnumbered or less psychologically resilient.

Bullying includes assault, tripping, intimidation, rumor-spreading and isolation, demands for money, destruction of property, theft of valued possessions, destruction of anothers work, and name-calling.

Statistically, 1/3 of all school children are bullied at one point in time.  Most experts agree, the data is skewed much lower, because the majority of children do not report bullying out of fear, embarrassment, helplessness or reprisal.

How to deal with a bully, becomes much more complicated at school, where there is zero tolerance for bullying, but also for fighting.  It is not uncommon, for the bully AND the victim to get suspended from school.



Bullying Resources

The following resources are provided to assist children and their parents to develop positive anti-bully strategies.  These sites offer some great tips and strategies for helping to understand what bullying is and how to address it in and out of school.


The Pacer Center

OLWEUS
BULLYING PREVENTION PROGRAM


Parents.......

 

If your child is having problems being bullied, or if you know of someone that needs help, I make this commitment to you, that I will provide a private lesson to help your child for FREE or for a small donation to our foundation.  Do NOT wait until your child has suffered a serious blow to their confidence and self esteem.

I will show them non violent ways to deal with a bully.  And if that is not enough, I will show them specific techniques they can use to defend themselves.

I was bullied as a child and I know first hand how difficult it can be for a young child to feel helpless.

Call today if you need help at 803-462-9425!

This is what I do, and yes, I am proud to say, I am good at it!

2000 Clemson Road
Suite # 9
Columbia, SC 29229

Suicide Prevention

A growing number of children have sadly taken their lives, believing no one was willing or capable of helping them.  Suicide is NOT the answer to bullying.  Taking action, getting support of your family, your teachers and yes, your peers is all part of the solution.

If you feel suicidal, please don't wait.  Contact one of the resources below to get some help and guide you through this crisis.

You matter!

Not only to me, but to your family and circle of friends.

Please seek help from the resources below if you feel you have no other options.



Are you in crisis? Please call 1-800-273-TALK

Are you feeling desperate, alone or hopeless?

Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255), a free, 24-hour hotline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. Your call will be routed to the nearest crisis center to you.
  • Call for yourself or someone you care about
  • Free and confidential
  • A network of more than 140 crisis centers nationwide
  • Available 24/7

The following information is taken directly from the DBSA (Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance):

What if I am feeling suicidal?

Remember:


Suicidal thoughts are temporary. Suicide is permanent.  Don’t give in to suicidal thoughts— you can overcome them.  Your feelings of hopelessness are not the truth. When you feel this way, it’s your illness talking— your mind is lying to you. Remind yourself that suicidal thoughts are not reality.

If you are thinking of suicide, it is important to recognize these thoughts for what they are: expressions of a treatable medical illness. They are not true and they are not your fault. Don’t let fear, shame or embarrassment stand in the way of communication with your physician, therapist, family, or friends; tell someone right away. 

Tell a trusted family member, friend, or other support person, someone you can talk with honestly. Try not to be alone when you feel this way. This may mean sitting quietly with a family member or friend, going to a support group or going to a hospital. 

Get help. Tell your health care professional. Suicidal thinking can be treated. When suicidal thoughts occur, they are your signal that, more than ever, you need help from a professional.
Know that you can get through this. Promise yourself you will hold on for another day, hour, minute, or whatever you can manage.

If you are feeling "out of control", it's important to seek help immediately---even if you are not having suicidal thoughts.



How can I be prepared for a crisis?

 

Often, crises happen without warning, and the best thing you can do to prepare yourself is to make a crisis-plan list for yourself, a friend, or a family member. This list should be shared with everyone you choose. Briefly describe the kind of help you (or your loved one) would like to receive if you have severe depressive or manic symptoms.

Include:
  • Doctor(s)’ name(s) and contact information
  • Contact information of support group and other trusted friends/family members
  • Other health problems and medications
  • Allergies to/intolerance of any medication
  • Insurance or Medicaid information and preferred treatment facilities
  • Things that might trigger an episode, such as life events, travel, physical illness or work stress
  • Warning signs such as talking very fast, paranoia, lack of sleep, slowed down movement, excessive alcohol or drug use
  • Things people can say that are calming and reassuring
  • Things people should do in crisis such as take away car keys and lock up anything dangerous such as weapons and medications
  • Things emergency staff can do, such as explain things, talk slowly, observe personal space, or write things
  • Reasons life is worthwhile and recovery is important

How should I talk to a person in crisis?

  • Stay calm. Talk slowly and use reassuring tones.
  • Realize you may have trouble communicating with your loved one. Ask simple questions. Repeat them if necessary, using the same words each time.
  • Don’t take your loved one’s actions or hurtful words personally.
  • Say, “I’m here. I care. I want to help. How can I help you?”
  • Don’t say, “Snap out of it,” “Get over it,” or “Stop acting crazy.”
  • Don’t handle the crisis alone. Call family, friends, neighbors, people from your place of worship or people from a local support group to help you.
  • Don’t threaten to call 911 unless you intend to. When you call 911, police and/or an ambulance are likely to come to your house. This may make your loved one more upset, so use 911 only when you or someone else is in immediate danger. 



The following sites offer very good information about suicide:






    During the past few years, there has been an outbreak of suicides related to children and teens being bullied.  Feeling helpless and full of despair, these children felt no way out of their situation other than to end their lives.


    If you or someone you know, is having difficulties dealing with a bully, please contact me at Samurai Karate Studio, 803-462-9425 and I will help privately for FREE or for a small donation to my foundation.  We must work together to help our children feel safe and know that there is HOPE!


    2000 Clemson Road
    Suite # 9
    Columbia, SC 29229
    803-462-9425
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